tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-12177647.post116175225090930542..comments2023-08-06T03:58:35.425-04:00Comments on diesel.blog: Stop Test-Driving Your Girlfriendvandorstenhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/00551123148428933747noreply@blogger.comBlogger18125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-12177647.post-1162356364693797182006-10-31T23:46:00.000-05:002006-10-31T23:46:00.000-05:00Amen.Amen.vandorstenhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00551123148428933747noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-12177647.post-1162261055333061042006-10-30T21:17:00.000-05:002006-10-30T21:17:00.000-05:00As Mike has mentioned, and I concur with, we need ...As Mike has mentioned, and I concur with, we need to have and maintain a Christian worldview in all aspects of life with our relationships included – perhaps especially our relationships. In a world supermarket of religions and a local supermarket of relationships be they hetero or otherwise there is always so much choice. Think of McChurch and McWorld. Value systems have changed a lot over Lord Veritashttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01056309630072090486noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-12177647.post-1162226992173344672006-10-30T11:49:00.000-05:002006-10-30T11:49:00.000-05:00Veritas - again, point well taken. in no way is th...Veritas - again, point well taken. in no way is this theme of relational evaluation/comparison confined to pre-marital or extra-marital realationships. <BR/><BR/>why would you say this is a common thread in relationships of whatever sort? mike (see comment above) contends this is a result of our self-centric capitalistic society. would you agree? <BR/><BR/>anyone have any comments as to whether vandorstenhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00551123148428933747noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-12177647.post-1162207797585375462006-10-30T06:29:00.000-05:002006-10-30T06:29:00.000-05:00Van D - to be more accurate most men and women - ...Van D - to be more accurate most men and women - even those in marriage - evaluate their partner in comparison with others and with other relationships to see if there is anything better. So we hide the truth if we think that it is confined to relationships outside of marriage or a prelude to marriage.Lord Veritashttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01056309630072090486noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-12177647.post-1162131726823751192006-10-29T09:22:00.000-05:002006-10-29T09:22:00.000-05:00Veritas - you make a good point. my wife told me ...Veritas - you make a good point. my wife told me that most of the unmarried women she has known are in a constant state of "evaluation" when it comes to their interatctions with males. Perhaps we should add "(or Boyfriend)" to the title of the article.<BR/><BR/>Truitt - or you could hold a raffle. either way, let me know how that works out for you. <BR/><BR/>mike - indeed!vandorstenhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00551123148428933747noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-12177647.post-1162087316450743792006-10-28T22:01:00.000-04:002006-10-28T22:01:00.000-04:00Hehe...Hehe...Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-12177647.post-1161962765691894092006-10-27T11:26:00.000-04:002006-10-27T11:26:00.000-04:00i'm just gonna call my father and get him to betro...i'm just gonna call my father and get him to betroth me to someone.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-12177647.post-1161962631245086722006-10-27T11:23:00.000-04:002006-10-27T11:23:00.000-04:00Is not the article a little bit one sided? Is it ...Is not the article a little bit one sided? Is it just blokes that do the 'test drive' I think they could have put in a bit more thought and research. Yes , duurrhh, I saw the title but remember relationships are two sided and who's test driving whom? Some people regardless of their gender continually relationship-hop to see if they are actually on a good wicket or they get bored easily. Lord Veritashttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01056309630072090486noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-12177647.post-1161887652180753442006-10-26T14:34:00.000-04:002006-10-26T14:34:00.000-04:00Booyah.Booyah.vandorstenhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00551123148428933747noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-12177647.post-1161887553314940412006-10-26T14:32:00.000-04:002006-10-26T14:32:00.000-04:00We are capitalistic consumers born into a free mar...We are capitalistic consumers born into a free market and we never leave. We despise monopoly and love to have options for anything and everything. It's what we're taught to be and it's what our perversions like to take advantage of. We won't escape until we realize that the earth is Lord's... and everything that goes with it.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-12177647.post-1161886520220301242006-10-26T14:15:00.000-04:002006-10-26T14:15:00.000-04:00mike - great observations. i think the "upgrade" m...mike - great observations. i think the "upgrade" mentality is very ingrained in most individuals who make up our society. why do you suppose that is?<BR/><BR/>Lord have mercy, indeed.vandorstenhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00551123148428933747noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-12177647.post-1161886402905734282006-10-26T14:13:00.000-04:002006-10-26T14:13:00.000-04:00rick, allie, deanna, truitt - good comments, all. ...rick, allie, deanna, truitt - good comments, all. <BR/><BR/>i would agree with rick mansfield in that dating has become largely consumeristic, which is indeed a problem. <BR/><BR/>But the other points have validity as well, and i would say we tend to embrace extremes (either i will date everyone i can until i find "the one" or i will completely cut off all contact with the opposite sex).<BR/><BR/vandorstenhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00551123148428933747noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-12177647.post-1161883303919621292006-10-26T13:21:00.000-04:002006-10-26T13:21:00.000-04:00Great post! Consumerism affects everything in our ...Great post! Consumerism affects everything in our American culture. We ARE consumers. We look around till we find a girl but are constantly ont he move to upgrade. We find a church that's comfortable with us but are always looking around for a newer model (I have changed churches several times but for matters of theological conviction and christian witness. I find myself in a historic church now Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-12177647.post-1161839076616604332006-10-26T01:04:00.000-04:002006-10-26T01:04:00.000-04:00don't get me wrong, i am encouraged that a group o...don't get me wrong, i am encouraged that a group of people care about our generation and desire to see us live lives that commend the gospel...that being said i would like to see an article writen by someone who is not 1) married and 2) been married since they were 18...that also being said was i supposed to marry the first guy that came around for fear that I would die an old spinster? because Gailhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10565329786560873128noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-12177647.post-1161791866449706272006-10-25T11:57:00.000-04:002006-10-25T11:57:00.000-04:00i don't think i like that article by focus on the ...i don't think i like that article by focus on the familia. and here is why. i think dating <I>should</I> be a "consumer" venture of a sort. not in a selfish "give-me-everything-i-want-and-then-i-will-dump-you" sort of way, but more in a "i-will-be-a-kind-and-serving-friend-to-you-but-i-am-still-testing-you-out" sort of way.<BR/><BR/>in my life, it has proven dangerous to commit to someone too Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-12177647.post-1161790976952080402006-10-25T11:42:00.000-04:002006-10-25T11:42:00.000-04:00Fascinating. I agree that male-female relationship...Fascinating. I agree that male-female relationships today are a mess of miscommunication, unfair expectations, transactional behavior and greed. But i am not sure what the alternative to dating is? To some degree, everyone who is married today had to "test" out their spouse through the strange process of dating. Where I don't agree with wreckless abandon and using people for the sake of Alliehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09682269159782769872noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-12177647.post-1161788760398344842006-10-25T11:06:00.000-04:002006-10-25T11:06:00.000-04:00All dating is consumerism applied to marriage.I di...All dating is consumerism applied to marriage.<BR/><BR/>I didn't think about it before I got married, but that's all it is. It's a modern phenomenon and I believe it's directly tied to the high divorce rate. "If this girlfriend/spouse doesn't work out, well I'll just get another."<BR/><BR/>It's a huge cultural problem both inside and outside the church.R. Mansfieldhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12333586197235312918noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-12177647.post-1161783123683277742006-10-25T09:32:00.000-04:002006-10-25T09:32:00.000-04:00"looking for love in all the wrong places"i think ..."looking for love in all the wrong places"<BR/><BR/>i think i will write a song about that. oh wait…Anonymousnoreply@blogger.com